I think it’s fair to say that life can throw some curve balls at us. It’s great to have hopes and dreams but when they don’t come to fruition, it can lead us to feeling low and frustrated.
Having been involved in Christian prayer ministry, working professionally in settings which have involved helping and supporting people, as well as dealing with my own disappointments, I would like to share my insights with you to help you discover the joy of moving from disappointment to hope.
Based on my own experiences, as well as some knowledge from a good friend who has been involved in counselling and prayer ministry, here are my 5 top tips for dealing with disappointment.
It’s very important that we surrender whatever it was that we had hoped for and dreamed about to God and trust Him with it.
I have found that if we don’t immediately turn to God when we are hit with disappointment it can lead to a root of bitterness in our hearts which can lead us to struggle to move forward. We can become plagued with negative thoughts and emotions which prevent us from overcoming the disappointment. So it is vital that we lay down our hopes and dreams before God and say:
“God if this is your will, please open the door, if not I trust you for another hope for my future”.
2. Trust God
We have to make a decision to move past the disappointment. Don’t run from the disappointment, pray about it and be honest with God about your pain but choose to trust that He is sovereign and He can see things that we can’t. God knows why it can’t be the way we had hoped and we have to trust Him even when we don’t see or understand. Once we are in that place of trust it’s amazing how the emotional pain starts to ease.
3. Be Patient
Allow time to heal.
Although we may think we’re invincible because we’re Christians, we still need to recognise the importance of allowing God’s Holy Spirit to heal us over time. In my experience spending time praying in the Holy Spirit, in tongues particularly is very powerful and allows the Holy Spirit the opportunity to heal you and move you into a place of coming to terms with your disappointment.
4. Seek Godly counsel
We must not suffer on our own!
Isolation is so detrimental to dealing with emotional pain. We must seek other committed Christians to encourage us, those Christians should be able to help us put things into perspective. We live in a society in which it can be daunting to ask for help from others and we can feel afraid that we will be perceived as weak. However asking for help is vital for coming to terms with disappointments and finding a way forward. So I encourage you to speak to your church leaders and other Christians who are willing to pray with you and know that you will come through it.
5. Seek God’s word
Finally the bible is absolutely full of scripture which demonstrates God’s heart for us and His love for us and I find scripture so beneficial in teaching us and healing the wounds caused by disappointment.
Matthew 11 v 28 says:
‘Come to me all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart and you will find rest for your souls’.
I hope and pray that you find these tips helpful and encouraging when dealing with disappointments in your life.
Written by Eunike Tate (Hope City Newcastle) as part of the SHE IS Collective Blog Series